Let’s normalize that men moan during sex

men moan during sex

Wednesday, January 5. 10am. I put on a porn movie connecting the headphones to the computer for inspiration.

(Each one starts the day as they want)

A couple is having sex on the couch in doggy style . She moans so loudly that it scares me that someone in my family could have heard the sound.

I take off a headset and check that everything is still in order.

When I look back at the screen, they have changed positions . But there is something that remains the same.

She continues to express the pleasure to voices while he only lets out the occasional snort. Nothing more.

The scene is common – the one of them being quiet while having sex – and it is something that has been repeated for years in my sex life .

Rare have been the times that I have come across someone capable of loosening up and moaning.

When porn dad teaches that letting go of those high-pitched sounds and with an almost plaintive undertone is feminine, what man would dare to replicate them?

Surprisingly, we are surrounded by male moans in our day to day life.

They are the ones that Nadal drops when he plays tennis, hitting the ball with all his might.

They are also the ones you hear the musclemen in the gym when they pick up the dumbbells and do chest presses .

The more weight, the more effort and the louder is the groan. In that context releasing the sound is not ashamed.

It’s okay to moan if it’s to prove you’re pushing your body to the limit , with a show of strength worthy of a bodybuilding competition.

But not to stimulate or enjoy more with your partner . According to science, this unstoppable scream facilitates lung ventilation which helps relaxation.

Non-verbal communication during sex also means enjoying the moment more and therefore, greater intimate satisfaction.

So letting out the moans has so many benefits, it’s too good not to .

As a sound guide, they serve us as indicative . We know he is enjoying it and that motivates us to keep going.

To suck deeper, bite harder, lick more often or move faster .

As good voyeurs , we like to see him surrendered to what he is feeling. And there is nothing like the boost of self-esteem for that pleasure that we deliver – and at the same time it belongs to us for generating it.

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PAINFUL INTERCOURSE: THE 6 MOST COMMON CAUSES

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Although it is not always consulted, feeling pain at the time of penetration during sexual intercourse is a very common problem and should never be considered normal. It can affect women of all ages and although it can be caused by various reasons, one of the most common is the involuntary contraction of the pelvic floor muscles. This contraction is commonly called vaginismus, and it causes partial or total closure of the vagina, which, in addition to pain, prevents penetration. In this post, explains how to treat this problem and what other causes can cause pain at the time of penetration.

  1. Vaginismus

Vaginismus can make it painful, difficult, or impossible to have sex, perform a gynaecological exam, or insert a tampon. It is a sexual dysfunction and therefore it should be consulted and treated, as it can be an indicative symptom of other gynaecological health problems (endometriosis, pelvic inflammation, fibroids, sexually transmitted infections, vaginal stenosis …). Although it can also be the consequence of negative previous sexual experiences, lack of desire, a repressive education in childhood or adolescence, problems of vaginal dryness – very frequent as the age of menopause approaches – or, simply, the fear of a pregnancy.

Often times, the cause of vaginismus is a bad first experience , out of fear of feeling pain the first time, because the relationship was not entirely desired, or because the necessary time was not spent to achieve arousal and facilitate lubrication. If left untreated, it can end up causing anxiety, insecurity, frustration, and personal and relationship problems, because it affects both sexual satisfaction and psychological well-being.

The first step is always to consult with a gynaecologist who specializes in sexual dysfunction and to be honest. If you have a partner, it is important to talk openly about this problem and not feel guilty. If you have to do therapy or exercises, it is important that you are informed and that you go, if necessary, to the visits so that you know how to act and help. In general, in addition to a first physical examination and reviewing symptoms and a complete medical history, the doctor may order an ultrasound to examine the internal organs (it can be done abdominally) and rule out possible malformations and diseases such as endometriosis or the presence of fibroids or myomas.

It is very likely that your doctor will tell you to go to a pelvic floor physiotherapy specialist to explain where the vaginal muscles are located and to help you become aware of how they contract and relax. Through specific exercises, breathing techniques or the use of vaginal dilators and massages, the muscles in the area can be relaxed. The answer is usually very good.

2. Organic problems

Pain during intercourse can also be caused by vaginal malformations , pelvic diseases , scars from surgical interventions (for example: episiotomy) or vulvodynia , a dysfunction of nervous origin characterized by chronic pain in the vulvar area, tenderness and stinging on contact. Also, an inflammation of the intestine (from ulcerative colitis , Crohn’s disease ), very severe constipation or other intestinal diseases(infections, gas, etc.) can also make penetration painful. Your gynaecologist must be informed and refer you to the specialist that he / she considers most appropriate.

3. Endometriosis

If the pain is felt in a deeper area, it may be a symptom of endometriosis, cysts, or problems with the uterus. Endometriosis occurs when endometrial tissue leaves the uterus and spreads to other gynecological or organic areas. It often causes pain in the pelvic area, the bottom of the vagina, and the rectum It is important to go to a center that has specialists in this disease, so that they can address it in a comprehensive way, since it can also compromise fertility. Treatment can be pharmacological or surgical, each case and its evolution must be evaluated, since this disease requires follow-up.

4. Vaginal dryness

It is common in menopause and postpartum, and it can also be caused, in some cases, by taking hormonal contraceptives . In general, in the postpartum case, it is essential to respect the time indicated to resume sexual intercourse and avoid penetration at the beginning, especially if there Read the rest